Warning...Sad news...

[Stephanie Pray]

Hi Everyone,

I really don't know how to say the things that I need to say, so please bear with me. It's been a terrible few days (to say the least).

Many of you know that my husband and I were expecting our first child in December. There were a number of problems that came up so last Thursday I was sent to the hospital so that the Dr.s could induce labor. After 32 hours of labor, I delivered my beautiful boy Elijah, who died 11 minutes later. He weighed 15.3 ounces, and was 10 3/4 inches long. He was beautiful. :(

My husband and I have been heart-broken and are doing the best that we can to cope.

I'd like to thank all of my friends here who have offered their thoughts, prayers and support. I can not tell you how much it means to me. If I could, I'd hug you all. :) I'd also like to send out a special thanks and an extra hug to those who contributed to the gift certificate. I'm really looking forward to that. It was soooo sweet!! Thank you all again. You all mean so much to me and I'm so blessed to have you all as friends. :)

Please do not feel obligated to reply. I just wanted to let everyone know the situation.

Thank you and God bless you all,
Steph

[Hannes_F]

Steph ...

... feeling with you both ... I'm very sorry ...

Hannes

[falcon1]

My condolences goes to you and your husband! I will keep on praying for you both.

Big hug!

[C J Pro]

Whenever I encounter someone who is depressed or stressed online, I always link them to Wings of Dreams. Amazingly, it helps. So here you go:

http://www.garritan.com/competition/126_KentaroSato_WingsOfDreams.mp3

I'm sorry about your loss.

[SeanHannifin]

I will keep you and your husband in my prayers, may God bless you and your family.

[snorlax]

Steph~

You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Jim and Suellen Williams

[Styxx]

Steph, My wife and I send our love to you and yours. ElijaH, you and your husband will be in our prayers every night. Love you all!

[DPDAN]

Stephanie,

You and your husband are blessed.
Elijah,,,, is a wonderful name...

This to shall pass,
Your friend,
Dan

[joaz]

May I add my good wishes to those above.

I hope you feel better soon.

regards Joe

[wrayer]

Hugs and blessings - God has plans, we are but mortals - his precious moments with you are a lifetime of memories. Can we ask any more than to be born, be loved, and be loved in death. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your husband. Please know that better times will come.

Bless you.

Bill

[noldar12]

Steph, you and your husband have my deep condolences. Know that you have friends here, and willing ears to listen to you, should you feel the need. You will be in my prayers.

One thing that might bring comfort would be to read some of the Old Testament Psalms, specifically the psalms of lament. Perhaps later on, you may be able to explore your sorrow through writing a composition.

I agree with DP... Elijah is a wonderful name.

Jim Walraven

[Rhap2]

Steph:

Sorry for your recent loss. Elijah is a beautiful name and I'm sure he was a beautiful child. In times like this, faith is the greatest healer and I hope you will be blessed in the future with another child.

Love and prayers to you both........

Jack

[etLux]

It was with deep sadness that I heard the news of this,
Stephanie, and my heart goes out to you both.

May we hope that the prayers and thoughts and good
wishes of all of us here will bring you solace.

I send you hugs, often the only medicine -- and you will
remain in my thoughts in this.

My best,

David
www.DavidSosnowski.com
.

[musicpete]

Can't pray for you, since I am agnostic, but I feel the deepest respect and empathy for you and your husband. My best wishes go to you from Vienna!

[BlueMax]

With our child due in only a month's time, to hear such a thing is heartbreaking. I can't even imagine.

The only solace I can think of is that someday this world of sin will come to an end and will be remade to the Eden it once was - a world without evil. This time - with no evil to pollute it, the great controversy finally ended.

My heartfelt condolences for your terrible loss. May God see you through these troubled times, and give you peace.

[giwro_jon]

Dear Steph,

In times like these, it is safest to say simply that I have no idea what you must feel, but that know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Leaf]

Steph,
I'm so sorry this happened, I send you my hugs and prayers and will keep praying for you and your husband and all of your parents and family.

David

[PaulR]

Terribly sorry to hear that. Best wishes to you both.

Paul Blakeney.

[LouisD]

Our deepest condolences, from me and my wife. You are in our prayers.

[Hermitage59]

My sincere condolences to you Steph, and your husband and family......
and i hope the future gets brighter as quickly as possible.

Kind Regards,

Alex.

[Craig Reeves]

Things will turn around soon. God has a blessing in store for you even if you don't see it or not aware of it right now....it's on it's way. Just keep on keeping on!

[Robert P]

Dear Stephanie,

My warmest thoughts to you both, and to the little angel Elijah who spent so few a time on this earth. This is the most stirring personal story I have ever read on this forum.

Kind regards
Robert

[jcbryson1]

Steph,

As a father I can't even imagine what you and your husband must be going through. Know that many are praying for the 2 of you "down under" in Albuquerque.

Jon

[Steve_Karl]

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you and your husband find peace.

[LFO]

Steph,
I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you and your husband. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

-LFO

[Jeff Turner]

Steph,

I'm very sorry for the loss you and your husband have shared. But the one thing that we cannot lose, and cannot be taken away from us is love. The love you have for Elijah is still as strong as ever, probably even more so.

The gift of love will never be lost.

Jeff

[rpearl]

Steph,

We all feel your sadness, but we can't begin to understand the depth. Please let time work on the healing process. You are in my thoughts, and all our thoughts.

Wishing you peace,

Ron

[Frodo]

Dear Stephanie,

I am so very, very sorry to hear of your loss. May you and your husband be restored and healed deep within. And know that you are not alone.

I believe it was C. S. Lewis who when going through a time of great loss was asked, "What do you think God is trying to show you in this?" "I don't think God is trying to show me anything," Lewis replied. "I believe He's weeping right along with me."

In all their distress He too was distressed. And the angel of His presence saved them. In His love and mercy He redeemed them. He lifted them up and carried them all the days of old. -Isaiah 63

[Garritan]

Steph,

We are so sorry to hear about your loss. I cannot imagine what you are going through. No parent should ever have to suffer such a loss.

There really are people here who care and I hope it is assuring you are not alone.

Hope the gift from the forum members will also bring a little cheer. Others have since contributed and you'll be receiving some more cheer. :)

You will remain in our thoughts and prayers.


Take care,

Gary Garritan

[JonFairhurst]

Steph,

Sorry to hear the sad news.

My grandmother lost her first deliveriies as well. Fortunately, my grandparents perservered, having two healthy children. Fortunate for me too - I wouldn't be here without her!

All the best to you and your husband.

[jsp2]

My deepest condolences to you and your husband, Steph.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you both.

Jeff

[RichR]

I too wish to express my deepest sympathy and condolences on yours and your husbands loss. You both are in my prayers. Keep the precious memories of the brief time Elijah had on earth with you both.

Sincerely,

[Fabio]

Hi, I can't say it correctly in English, then no words, just hope for a rewarding future...

[Infinite5ths]

Steph,

I have 3 little brothers waiting for me in Heaven as a result of similar circumstances.

We're praying for you. Take care and GOD BLESS.

[wst3ae]

You are all in my prayers!!

My wife and I lost our first, and I really wasn't sure I could ever go through the whole thing again!

Even so, I can only imagine what you must be going through.

Take your time, grieve, process, pray, make music, do whatever you have to do.

My wife and I now have three little critters (ages 4, 2, and months) running around the house, so I guess I could, in fact go through it again (and again and again!)

I don't know what any of that means, never did, probably never will...

Take care!

[Shazbot]

Oh my gosh... I'm so sorry for your loss, Stephanie.

[Aziraphal]

Sincere condolences Stephanie. I wish I could find some fitting words...
Love, Matt

[Dave Hoffman]

Steph, I am so very sorry to hear this. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

[vic_france]

God Bless... courage to you both.

[Narator]

Deepest condolences. I did not even understand the topic until now.
now is the time that you two need eachother the most.

[robsmusic]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

May God bless you and your family.
I pray that you get to see Elijah in heaven.

Yours,
-rob

[Ian Dorsch]

Steph, I am deeply sorry to hear about your tragic loss.

You and your family will be in my family's thoughts and prayers.

[DDW]

Steph,

In your message, you indicated no need to reply... but as you can see and already know, this is a caring and connected group of individuals. I'd just like to add my condolences to those already offered and assurance that the future will indeed be brighter for you and your husband.

Danny

[jonray]

Dear Steph,

Please accept my deepest condolences from England. I can only imagine the grief you must be feeling right now.

If it's any consolation, a good friend of mine lost a child some years ago. They never gave up hope having another child, and now, many years later, they have two beautiful teenage daughters. You probably can't think this way at the moment but time does change things.
Best wishes
Jon

[Stephanie Pray]

Thank you everyone :)
Your words of support have helped to cheer me up and to show me that there is hope. I'm so grateful to know all of you!! I wish that I had the words to express myself...hopefully, you know what I truly mean.
Thank you all so much and God bless you all!!
Steph

[Tom Hopkins]

You've got a lot of friends here, Steph (probably more than you realize.) I hope it helps smooth the healing.

Tom

[fred Holmes]

Never quite sure how to respond in these circumstances but just to let you know that as one human to another, your story has touched a chord of deep saddness and compassion in me While I'm a stranger to you and cannot know your exact feelings I resonate with incidents that seem to have no meaning or reason except that they are part of living this life.

Life will call you back to living, and
these events forever change you.

Fred

[ptram]

Very sad indeed, Stephanie. We are with you.
Paolo

[efiebke]

Steph -

My wife, Amy, and I hold you and your husband in our thoughts and prayers.

:(

I admire and respect you for sharing to this internet community such a profound loss. Equally, it is heartwarming to read the support and warm thoughts and prayers provided you by this community.

Peace and healing to you and your husband. . . . .

{{{{Steph}}}}

Ted

[88fingers]

Steph,

I can not begin to put my thoughts and feelings of your loss to words.

Please except my short reply as a strong heart felt grievance. Know that you are not alone and very loved. My wife and I have experience the same sadness and it is true that you recover from it, but only in time.


I wish I could express more of my feelings, so instead here is a "Giant" hug from me to you and your husband.




I will pray for your happiness and a strong family.

As always, thinking of you and looking forward to more beautiful music.

Pete Casti.

[trentpmcd]

I'm very sorry to hear the sad news.

[Jerry W.]

Oh wow, :(

I am so sorry to hear this news. I was really pulling for you and your husband, but understood from our conversations that this was a long shot.

There are no words of comfort I can possibly give to help, but please know that you have been, and continue to be, in my prayers and best wishes.



Jerry

[newsound]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My wife and I have had a similar experience.

As many people have said, it gets better, but it takes time.

We are just down the road from you (in Denver), and if we can do ANYTHING for you, please let us know. Shopping, cleaning, answering phones or e-mails, or just cooking a couple of meals (or as a dear friend did for us: rent a couple of movies and serve popcorn!)- let us know. You have been a strong supporter of this community, and whatever I can do to give back, consider it done.

Best to you and your husband in a hard time,

El
newsound@earthlink.net
avidteacher@yahoo.com

[Stephanie Pray]

Thank you all so much for your sympathy and for the support and prayers. It means so much to me and my husband to know that there are so many people pulling for us. I was able to bring Elijah home from the funeral home yesterday (that was really hard :( ) so maybe now we'll be able to start healing.

To newsound: Thank you so much for the offer. It was very sweet of you. :) Maybe when we're feeling better, you and your wife can come over for BBQ :)

Take care and Thanks so much again,
Steph

[lukpcn]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss... nothing more I can say...

live is not fair....

[southportJim]

Steph,

I haven't had much time for the forum recently, so just today found out about your loss. I am so very sorry.

The same happened to a good friend of mine many years ago, and I remember well how devastating it was for her. Please know that you have many friends in this forum and we will all be praying for you and your husband...

jim

[Stephanie Pray]

Thank you all again for your kindness to me. :) I've been helped so much by my friends here. :) Last night, I received another gift from my friends here and I'd like to express my sincere thanks!! I wish that I had the ability to put my thoughts into words...

Please know that you all mean so much to me and I'm so grateful to and for all of you.

Take Care,
Steph :hp:

[beach]

I wish i was here before to share the sufference you had my dear friend.
I am sorry about this and please take my apologies.

But you know... you ll be fine Stephanie, because you have another angel in the sky... and your angel will be with you forever.

Elijah is fine there more than what we are here, there is no pain there.

I wish I could give you a big hug, but I am thinking about you, and I hope this could help you a little bit.

you know where I am if you need more.

A big hug again Stephanie.

your Roberto...