I recently moved in with my mother as a care giver and as way to legally keep her ranch in the family.
I didn't realize how much her mental state has deteriorated. She has always been an insensitive authoritarian with a obsessive-compulsive complex but her defibrillator issues have resulted in short term memory loss and she also has increasing dementia. She has become paranoid of our intentions and really doesn't want me here. She is doing the opposite of what we ask her not to do for here own safety and cannot comprehend what is actually going on. She doesn't want to give up her independence and authority but her mind is slipping into an abyss.
My youngest brother just lives down the road and must know where she is at mentally but he's quite eccentric and impractical sometimes. He's just thinking about waiting a few years until real estate picks up but my mother is getting crazier by the day. She also has other health issues and is becoming a danger to herself.
We are under snow right now and I'll be busy with storm clean up for the week after it clears but then we need to make some hard choices and I need to move back to my home sweet home. My daughter and her boyfriend are there right now after doing a switch-a-roo with me so we'll have to work that one out. Luckily I left the utilities in my name and just need to move my phone back which I don't even have yet because of delays from the snow and cancel my Comcast internet service here.
I'm out of here ASAP!